Questions & Answers
1.Who pays for the wedding?
2.Where do I start with my guest list?
3.Who do we invite if we're getting married abroad?
4.Who sends the invitations and when?
5.Should I set a dress code?
6. What time should the bride & groom get to the ceremony?
7.Do my bridesmaids enter before or after me?
8. What duties do the best man and ushers have?
9.Can my pet dog be part of my wedding?
10.Do we have to have favours?
11.Do we need a receiving line?
12.Should we offer a choice of food?
13.When are the speeches and in what order?
14.When should we register our gift list?
15.Can we ask for cash instead of presents?
DUTIES OF THE BRIDESMAIDS As the etiquette surrounding weddings has become less ...
DUTIES OF THE BRIDESMAIDS As the etiquette surrounding weddings has become less formal, so the duties of the bridesmaids, especially the chief bridesmaid, have tended to diminish from playing a very practical role in bridal preparations to one of merely providing attractive moral support for the bride. Chief bridesmaids are, for example, no longer necessarily expected to help the bride shop for her clothes or fetch and carry for her in the hectic pre-wedding weeks. These duties are today more likely to devolve on the bride's mother who is much more likely to be a housewife who can arrange her work routines to fit in the extra chores than either the bride or bridesmaids, who, if of an age to be made responsible for such duties, are likely to be themselves in full-time employment. It is usual, however, still for the chief bridesmaid to arrive at the bride's home in the early morning of the wedding day, (many bridesmaids stay over the night before) and help the bride to dress.
And, in an era when only a tiny percentage of the population can afford the luxury of a ladies� maid this part of the bridesmaid's role has perhaps increased in importance. It is usually the bridesmaid who sees that the bride, in addition to being correctly dressed, boasts somewhere in outfit the traditional 'something borrowed' (usually a lace hankie lent by the bridesmaid herself), something blue (often a bow on underwear or a specially bought wedding garter), something old and something new demanded as 'good luck' charms.
During the ceremony itself, she arranges the bride's train and veil and keeps a watchful eye on the child attendants, if any. The chief bridesmaid leaves the church on the arm of the best man and leaves in the fourth car for the reception. During the reception she hovers at the side of the bride to give any help required.
When the time comes for the bride to change, the bridesmaid once again accompanies her to help her with her clothes. Usually only the chief bridesmaid helps here, although all the bridesmaids may assist in getting the bride ready for church. Traditionally, when the bridal couple return from their honeymoon, the chief bridesmaid is waiting at their new home to welcome them into it-having arranged such little welcoming touches as a bunch of nicely-arranged fresh flowers on the hall table. Here, once again, the limited time available during day-time hours for most modern bridesmaids has caused this function to lapse or to be taken over by the bride's mother and/or mother-in-law.