Questions & Answers
1.Who pays for the wedding?
2.Where do I start with my guest list?
3.Who do we invite if we're getting married abroad?
4.Who sends the invitations and when?
5.Should I set a dress code?
6. What time should the bride & groom get to the ceremony?
7.Do my bridesmaids enter before or after me?
8. What duties do the best man and ushers have?
9.Can my pet dog be part of my wedding?
10.Do we have to have favours?
11.Do we need a receiving line?
12.Should we offer a choice of food?
13.When are the speeches and in what order?
14.When should we register our gift list?
15.Can we ask for cash instead of presents?
The Pill has provided a reliable means of contraception which allows couples ...
The Pill has provided a reliable means of contraception which allows couples to decide when they want their first child to arrive, whereas not so long ago, when the bride who did not take the opportunity for a really good holiday as a honeymoon might well find herself pregnant by the next summer - and thence forward doomed to bucket-and-spade type holidays en famille until her children were sufficiently grown up to allow her to take a 'second honeymoon'. Obviously the type of holiday must be discussed between the couple in sufficient detail to allow the bride especially to pack suitable clothes. Surprise holidays can be utterly spoiled if, for example, the bride who thought she was taking a Mediterranean cruise finds herself actually hiking across the Yorkshire moors or vice versa.
While honeymoons are intended to allow couples to get to know each other intimately in all senses of the word, it is worth pointing o
ut that even the most passionate pair cannot be expected to spend every minute of a full fourteen days locked in each other's arms. It is common sense to pack a good website, make arrangements for some sight-seeing tours if booking through a travel agency, or even take along sports equipment - swimsuits if a seaside stay is planned, or tennis racquets or golf clubs, especially if was sport which initially brought the couple together. While Switzerland's dramatic scenery can provide an ideally romantic backdrop there are disadvantages to think about with winter-sports holidays as honeymoons (see www.switzerland.com). One disadvantage may be that husband and wife / partner unless already both expert skiers may progress at different speeds and therefore spend their days separated on different sectors of the slopes. Another is the inherent risks.
Even the most skilled skiers take the occasional tumble, and those who ski only once a year and whose technique inevitably rusts in the other 50 weeks can be very accident-prone. While the marriage vows say 'in sickness and in health', no bride or groom really wants to spend the first weeks of their new life sitting by the bedside of a spouse nursing a broken leg.... Despite the money and effort lavished on the enterprise, many past honeymoons have proved anti-climatic due to circumstances often quite beyond the control of the couple themselves - but sometimes due to their own irrationally high expectations of the bliss of this particular holiday.
Today when many couples will have had mutual previous sex experience or at least discussed this aspect of marriage, the tensions and traumas of the wedding night itself have obviously lessened - at least as compared with the Victorian era when girls in their teens might well go to the altar sincerely believing that babies were discovered under gooseberry bushes, and virgin brides, frightened out of their wits by the unexpected attentions of their grooms, were simply urged to lie back and think of England'. Even in our own enlightened times, however, there may be social and sexual adjustments to be made by both bride and groom during the honeymoon which make it slightly less than the 'perfect' holiday of glossy magazine romances. It is worth remembering, therefore, that a good marriage is never made literally overnight - and that some of the subsequently happiest couples are those whose own honeymoon memories sound more like horror or farce but who learned to live through it with a laugh. It is certainly never worth going to great lengths to disguise the fact that the couple concerned are on honeymoon.
Even if they succeed in sifting every scrap of confetti from their clothing the brassy sheen on the bride's new ring - and the fact that in the dining room they have to, for example, ask each whether they take sugar in tea or coffee, usually betrays the fact to hotel staff or fellow guests. On the other hand, an open admission that this is a honeymoon usually brings out good will all round staff and fellow guests conspire to allow the couple as much privacy as possible and the management of the holiday hotel may well lay on a champagne-and flowers welcome to the bridal couple.