Questions & Answers
1.Who pays for the wedding?
2.Where do I start with my guest list?
3.Who do we invite if we're getting married abroad?
4.Who sends the invitations and when?
5.Should I set a dress code?
6. What time should the bride & groom get to the ceremony?
7.Do my bridesmaids enter before or after me?
8. What duties do the best man and ushers have?
9.Can my pet dog be part of my wedding?
10.Do we have to have favours?
11.Do we need a receiving line?
12.Should we offer a choice of food?
13.When are the speeches and in what order?
14.When should we register our gift list?
15.Can we ask for cash instead of presents?
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In the U.K. there is no limit to the number of marriages which can be contracted by an individual, provided their previous partners are dead or there has been a separation by divorce in which the divorce decree has been made absolute. Previous marriage partners are not free to marry again at the decree nisi stage of a divorce. They must wait until the decree has been made absolute.
In practice, although there is no limit to the number of sequential marriages, an individual can contract a pattern of multiple marriages following a series of divorces as in the U.S.A. is unlikely in the U.K., where the law insists that a couple must have been married a minimum of three years before they can sue for divorce and where divorce proceedings themselves tend to move more slowly. The rules of etiquette surrounding second' and subsequent marriages were originally formulated to meet the needs of widows and widowers.
Today, however, the majority of second marriages tend to be contracted by those whose first marriages have ended in divorce, especially among the young. Ecclesiastical law however still states quite clearly that marriage is a contract entered for life.
This rule is still strictly observed in the Catholic church which admits no circumstances other than an annulment very rarely granted and then only by special dispensation from the Vatican-or the invalidity of the original marriage in which those with a still living spouse can re-marry. Attitudes within the established Church of England vary. Some parsons stand with Catholic opinion in regarding marriage as a sacrament only soluble by the death of a partner.
Others are prepared to remarry the `innocent' party in a divorce case and not the 'guilty', although since divorce by consent has become a legal possibility in the U.K. these terms have largely ceased to have validity. Often the nonconformist churches have a less rigid attitude to the remarriage of the divorced than the established church. So if there is a very real desire on the part of one or both partners to marry in church it is worth exploring the possibilities. Often parsons who cannot in conscience agree to actually marry the divorced again will offer to bless the civil union.